Transitions: Empty Nesting

“Life is 10% of what happens to us, and 90% how we react to it.” — Lou Holtz

Transitions occur at every level of our lives. The key is to move through transitions more easily and effortlessly. Some transitions are positive and rewarding, and others can be challenging and disappointing. What matters most is how we react to each transitional phase. We are the only ones that can create and control our reactions to the situation.

Deb, Connor & Stan Cottle at graduation ceremony

Right now I’m going through a major transition concerning our son Connor. As a graduated high school senior, he is transitioning to his appointment to the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, Colorado. With that I’m dealing with the fact that our only child is leaving the nest! The idea of taking him to college with the mini-van loaded up for the dorm room has morphed into us saying goodbye at the airport on July 17th. The Air Force Academy has already sent him his ticket and he will be on his way. The next time we’ll be able to see him is Labor Day weekend.

All of the family is in transition as we move toward empty nesting! So, we have two choices: We can look at this as an experience of separation anxiety and focus on our “emptiness,” or we can focus on his OUTSTANDING life opportunity to study at an elite institution, become a leader as an Air Force officer, and serve his country. I prefer to focus on the latter. In the 40 days we have left before he flies the nest, we can only continue to offer support, love, and quality time together.

What transition are you facing? How will you deal with it? And can you change your perspective on the transition to look at the good of the situation – or even the learning opportunity it can provide?

If 10% of life is really what happens to us, then 90% is how we react to it. So, how can we best react to transitions as they come up? What can you do today to prepare for and manage the transitions in your life? Remember, it’s a choice!